Disconnected

I think my kid is completely fascinating! I can guarantee I am not the only parent who thinks that about their kid. Jason and I often look at each other and just say “we made him!” He is smart, funny, caring, curious, stubborn and a little love.  He thinks the little things in life are the best- just like his Mama!

Sitting in our backyard yesterday evening I realized how relaxing and beautiful our night had been. I put my phone down on the way out the back door to play with my kid and I disconnected from everyone. Jason was inside cooking dinner and I was outside having a ball on the swing set and running around our yard with my kid. I didn’t care what else was going on.

Even after we came in to eat dinner and do our nighttime routine, I didn’t bother with my phone. I got Jaxon down for bed and got ready myself, I didn’t bother with my phone. I got a notification, I responded and put it back down. I truly felt connected with my family. I felt like I was where I should be, both physically and mentally.

I recently watched the viral video “Look-up” and I am pretty determined that I need to disconnect from social media. The bottom line is, my kid is the most important person in my life and I really want to focus 100% on him. The things in other people’s lives are theirs, not mine. Their drama doesn’t need to be brought into my world. They wouldn’t want my drama in their world, and that is why I don’t post it! It’s my drama, not theirs. I don’t want my business out there nor do I want their input or judgment on my decisions. Some people may think that sounds rude, but that is the way life used to be.

Before social media was a part of everyone’s day, people didn’t know what you did all day, they didn’t know your opinion of every single topic and they didn’t know about the person who cut you off on the freeway. I don’t put negativity on FB because I don’t want it in my world. I want to focus on happiness, positivity and the good things this world has to offer. It’s a choice, my choice. Of course, I want to celebrate people’s triumphs, their accomplishments, their happiness. I want to share in the good,  and I want to offer my condolences for their sadness, but I think I can be a good friend, a good person without knowing every single thing about their every single day.

Please, don’t misunderstand my point, there are some great advantages to social media. For me, I found my family from my dad’s side through Myspace and Facebook. I feel connected to them, and I definitely want that. I can stay connected with my family from Arizona, also. I love seeing my family grow up even though I don’t get to see them but once per year. Social media offers some amazing advantages, but I am allowed to draw the line where I need it.

Miranda Lambert’s song “Automatic” is a great look at how things have changed over the past 20 years. Technology has advanced tremendously, yet there is still this amazing drive to make it better. And it’s fueled by consumers who still want more. You have the power of anything you can dream of in the palm of your hand, but people still want more.  Well, so do I. I want more genuine, beautiful memories with my kid, my family. I want a childhood that my kids will want to recreate with their kids. I just don’t need to be on my phone 24/7, I don’t need to be connected to everyone at every moment.

So, I am going to disconnect. I will stay connected here and there, and I will post my own updates when I feel like it. But, social media will no longer rule my world. My kid will; my family will. They deserve all of me.

Xoxo- Ladylewy